Important principle #2:

Important principle #2:
Your beliefs, in combination with other aspects of your internal map of reality, create the results, circumstances, and experiences of your life. Regardless of what you believe, you will find a way to create consistency between your life and your beliefs. For this reason, beliefs, for the believer, are always true.
This principle is critically important to your happiness. The brain is a goal seeking mechanism, and a very powerful one. Your brain will either make whatever you believe is true actually come true in your life, or will at least make it seem to be true (which amounts to the same thing, as far as your actual experience of life is concerned).
This happens because human beings have a powerful need for consistency between the world and what they believe. The impulse to create this consistency is so strong that people will do almost anything be right about their beliefs, even when doing so creates failure, suffering or unhappiness.
You will arrange to be right about your beliefs by creating the circumstances that confirm to you that they are true.
We create this consistency in three ways:
*Method #1: We attract, and are attracted to, people and situations that confirm the truth of what we believe. If, for instance, you believe that no one will ever love you, you will somehow feel a magical attraction to men or women who do not have the capacity to love you, even though you have no way of consciously knowing this about them in advance.
This is why some people keep attracting essentially the same person, but in a different body. As long as you entertain the belief that no one will ever love you, you will, as if by a hidden radar, continue to attract and be attracted to people who are unable or unwilling to love you. Doing so creates consistency between what you believe and the actual events of your life.
*Method #2: We find ways to distort what we perceive so as to make a belief seem true, even if it is not. Believing that no one will ever love you, you interpret other people's behavior as evidence that they don't love you, even if that isn't what it really means. Of all the possible interpretations, you will pick those that confirm that your belief is true and filter out any interpretations that contradict your belief.
*Method #3: We act in such a way that people finally comply with what we believe and act in the way we feared. You believe you won't be loved, and that fear causes you to act in such a way that eventually someone who may actually love you finally really does stop caring.
With all three methods, you get to be right about what you believe, and create consistency between your beliefs and your life. If you would rather be right than happy, this is a great strategy, but if you would like to be happy and peaceful, it's a losing proposition.